Wednesday, September 20, 2006

my worst fear confirmed

Okay, so this isnt my WORST fear. but, awhile back i mentioned that i fear that people think i'm wasting my life and education on being a SAHM [stay at home mom]. I had lots of readers reassure me that its NOT a waste at all. And i've had lots of conversations with other people when they ask what i do, i say "i'm just a mom," and they say "dont say "just." thats the hardest job there is!"

Well, i was visiting my alma mater, to visit a favorite professor who i still keep close contact with. I also ran in with the teacher who was one of my supervisors while student teaching. [he left his highschool teaching job to work at the college.] I really had a lot of respect for him, b/c he helped me out alot more than other teachers i worked with, and gave me tons of advice and guidance. When he asked what i've been up to, i told him that i'm a stay at home mom. can you guess what he said? "Thats all?" I dont remember his exact words, but he then said something along the lines that being a SAHM is wasting my good education and teaching experiences.

Needless to say, i am feeling pretty crappy now...


on another note... this is probably a mother's worst fear. Its so sad to hear when this happens: Have you heard about baby abby? She was kidnapped from her home at only a few days old. Well, the baby was found! How exciting! I'm so glad that the mother has her baby back.

7 comments:

Clairissa said...

Well, what did you expect him to say? (a) He's a MAN and (b) He is in the education field. While others who reassured you on your previous post were mostly woemn and some are SAHM too! It's all in WHO you talk to. What matters most is what YOU think. And even if you'd rather be working and using your education, this is where God has you so try to be content.

P.S. I'm glad that baby was found too! How awful!!! When I was pregnant with Reagan it was when that lady got her belly slashed open and her baby stolen and that creeped me out too. People are strange!

Clairissa said...

Well, what did you expect him to say? (a) He's a MAN and (b) He is in the education field. While others who reassured you on your previous post were mostly woemn and some are SAHM too! It's all in WHO you talk to. What matters most is what YOU think. And even if you'd rather be working and using your education, this is where God has you so try to be content.

P.S. I'm glad that baby was found too! How awful!!! When I was pregnant with Reagan it was when that lady got her belly slashed open and her baby stolen and that creeped me out too. People are strange!

'liya said...

I read about Baby Abby too.. I agree with Clairissa, there's a lot of strange people out there.

Don't worry about what other people say. Sometimes people say things to make you feel bad about what you do because they're jealous. Even though for me it's different, I know what you mean. Some people say "you're just a teacher" just?? JUST!! People are just stupid!

janelle said...

yo. whats up. def have to email you what went on last weekend. bad stuff. but we are going away for our anniversary to upstate new york, we have a jacuzzi in our room!!! woohoo!!!!....anywho...do you remember college profs, they are like the dumbest people in the world. seriously do you remember college at all??

Linds said...

Hey, Becky. I had some inspiring thoughts that have since left my head thanks to a trip down a flight of stairs and to the opposite end of the apartment building to get some now very wrinkled laundry. All I can say is, don't let it get to you. You've made the choice to invest eternally in your child's life. And you never know if you'll have to start work outside of the home down the road and handle both full-time jobs!
And the part about wasting your good education and teaching experiences: PHOOEY! One learns soo much more at college then just a career! They learn about themselves, about others, about the world. And going to Christian schools, you learned more about God. So your eduction is definetly not wasted! Without realizing it, you've probably implemented things you've learned from school into your present life! OH, and just think didn't you take that class about the different stages children go through and how they develop? Can't remember what exactly it was called but it was one of the craziest for el. eds and Christian eds. Anyway, that in and of itself helped prepare you for motherhood more than I'll be prepared!

Oops, I'm writing a book here. I'd better stop. Anyway, guess what I'm saying is, I feel your pain (hey, I'm a telephone operator! not a full-time missionary in another country) and just want to encourage you to not let it what others say get to you. What's important is what God thinks. And you never know when your situation in life might change and you might have to be a working mom. . .

Raj said...

It hurts when someone u respect says something like that but I think u shud have tried to change his viewpoint and make him understand that wha tu do is equally important and that its a full time job.

Its difficult to make people think differently but u cud have tried :)

JDS1000 said...

There are countless advantages for a child to have one parent predominately home. Not to mention that being a "SAHM" requires a _LOT_ of skills learned during college education (E.g. time management, responsibility, multitasking, etc.). I'd say that being a home mother is not only an admirable profession, not only for the work involved, but for the love and caring your child is receiving.

Keep up da good work,

~!Jds

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