Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver but the other's gold

Sometimes I feel like a silly teenager trying to get a guy to notice/like me.
Except the context is totally different.

I've tried to make new mommy friends. And I was so scared about how to approach them and ask if they wanted to get together for a "play date" for our kids. Twice I've tried, and twice I've been rejected.

Our library has various programs for kids, and I've taken Erica to several play/story times. Well, the first mother I felt a connection to had a daughter Erica's age and also a baby. Erica and the other girl got along well. But I was always too shy about starting something up, b/c I was afraid she might not want to get together with me. So I never said anything.

Then, another program started up. The aforementioned mommy/girls were not in this one. But there was a mommy/girl there that had been at the same swimming class Erica had been in the previous year. We talked a lot and the girls played together a lot. So, at one of the last meetings I gave her a card w/ my name/email/phone number on it. She said she'd love to get together for a play-date for the girls. Only, she never called. And I actually saw her a few weeks later, and though we said hi, she didn't mention anything about it. I was very sad.

I also met another lady. This I thought would be very promising. She used to live in my neighborhood, but still comes often to visit a former neighbor b/c the kids are friends. And her daughter also LOVES strawberry shortcake... So I told her she could stop by anytime to borrow one of my movies. I also gave her a card w/ my name/email/phone number. She never called or stopped by either.

Is something wrong with me? Do people think I'm odd? Or worse, that my daughter is odd?

Well... Yesterday I was at another library thing. And the first mommy that I had mentioned was there. The one I never invited for a get together. During the program, I kept debating whether to say anything. I didn't want to risk rejection again. Finally, I decided I would say something... But before I could, she said that they're moving next week.

***Sniff, snuffle, boo hoo***

There are two other mommies I know whose kids get along w/ Erica quite well. And I've been meaning to invite them over. I really want to. But I still have that nagging feeling: "what if they don't want to?"


Becky, Mom, Mommy, Hey you, said...

ahh Becky...I wished you lived next to me..we could have margarita's and let the kids play.

I have trouble finding friends too..

I just kinda nothing really..

Toni said...

Wow! That's a hard one- don't know what to tell you. Good luck!

Abigail S said...

When we talked earlier, you said you had company over. Was it a mommy friend?

Keep trying, Becks! You're loveable, and so is Erica!

Crazy Working Mom said...

Instead of giving them your name, number, etc. Just initiate a play date. Get her number, or better yet, ask if she wants to come over on Thursday at 2 for a play date or meet at a specific park. Maybe that will help. Sometimes it's just hard for people to get the ball rolling.

Becky L said...

becky, mom, mommy, hey you- awe, thanks.

toni- thanks for casting 'luck' my way. Hopefully it will help!

abby- no, dear. it was my MIL

Crazy working mom- thanks for the input. I think i'm going to try it that way next time.

~*SilverNeurotic*~ said...

Maybe ask them for their information when you give them yours...that way you can always give them a call and take in initiative...